You are still trying to prove yourself to someone and to everyone. But you’ve done that: you are successful and you need to prove yourself no more.

Quitting your job was not the best thing that you should have done. Work is not just about the money. It’s something you do to make life meaningful, and while doing it for that reason and not for financial gains anymore, you may see others, in this case women, in a different light.

Be friendly, be sociable, start up conversations, take part in activities that you find fun in doing, and you will find those who share your interests. In the process of doing all this, you may, I emphasise the word, find someone who likes you the same way you like her. If not, you are still enjoying life, so what do you have to lose?

For a man, being 40 in an Asian society is not at all a barrier to love and marriage. You have choices in life, so let it not be abandonment and despair and “giving up”.

Listen to me, there’s a whole lot of living to do yet for you. If you find love along the way, bravo; if not, you are none the worse for it compared to the present. Marriage isn’t always the answer to things like loneliness. It has its own baggage, including financial issues, children, housework and all the nitty gritty things.

From,
Been There, Orlando, Florida, United States

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